It's not about sex. It's about Self

Eric Francis.

Dear Friend and Reader:

Tonight we're publishing the first installment of the Love, Lust and Compersion report, which is now titled, "It's not about sex. It's about Self." The link is at the bottom of this letter.

The first few segments don't touch the astrology. Rather, they address key themes relating to jealousy, relationships and compersion. The last few posts will look at the astrology, ending with the horoscope which (like Small World Stories) is being written with the assistance of Paloma Todd in Barcelona. I'll explore the astrology mainly through 8th house themes (sex, death, surrender, shared money, power issues), also looking at the implications of the 2nd (self-esteem), 5th (creativity and risk-taking) and 11th (group and friendship themes) houses. We'll also check out Chiron and Nessus in Aquarius, potent forces today. I am sure I won't be able to avoid Eris; never a good idea. I recommend clicking those and checking out the Planet Wiki entries on each of those three planets.

A few weeks ago, I received a comment from a reader concerned that I was slanted toward heterosexual reality. It's difficult to see one's own bias, but I am aware of being bisexual and consciously writing for an audience of predominantly heterosexual women who identify as monogamous. However, an above-average number of men have subscribed to this series; I've kept that in mind and I am truly happy to see you here.

This being said, I have a mental limitation in that I don't understand sexual orientation that polarizes (or tries to polarize) to one side of the sexual spectrum or the other, to the exclusion of the other. Intellectually, I kind of get it a little; but intuitively I can't grasp the notion. I cannot predict the relevance of this writing to people who are not heterosexual, but being something other than heterosexual myself, I trust there is at least some relevance.

I'm in a similar situation with monogamy: I don't understand love that excludes. To me, love's greatest quality is that it includes, to the best extent that we can cooperate. Yet theme of jealousy seems to be endemic to the human condition. There are few coherent ideas on the topic, much less sane ideas about what to do. Those in the reading audience who have explored polyamory (honest non-monogamy) will recognize some of its themes as the series develops, particularly the idea of compersion.

In practice, relationships and gender are fluid; they change and are subject to an ongoing process of revision and sometimes even conscious creation by individuals and by society. Our definitions of masculine and feminine seem important, but more often they are ridiculous.

Here is the link to the first segment of, It's not about sex. It's about Self.

Yours & truly,